The year of cheese

If I have learned anything in the last few weeks its this:  Every day you make it in this world, should be celebrated.  You may not have faced any great obstacles, there may of been nothing hurled your way, but you made it in a pretty sick world and you gotta get credit for that.  We have been handed bad news twice in one week,  news that makes you sick to your stomach and heading for the covers.  We are ok, but I got some pretty great friends that cant see past their hurt right now, and that's a pretty awful feeling.  We are almost scared to answer the phone.  Yea, one of those weeks.  But its not me I'm worried about.

So, back to the celebrating, on Saturday, its Geoff and I's 6 year anniversary.  In the Grand scheme of things I'll admit, that not that high of digits.  But, this week, well, its pretty great accomplishment.  Each day you make your marriage work, well, your doing the best work you can do.

If you think back to the first year you were married (and if your not married, you remember this, cuz one day, you'll know)--Hardest year.  I know that there will be some--some-- that will never admit to how hard the change can be.  But, hard doesn't really even touch it.  haha.  If I remember correctly Geoff and I's biggest fight was over cheese.  CHEESE.  I wont drag it out too much (although, if we had it on tape, it would be worth the entertainment) but it went a little like this:

Me:  Geoff wheres all the cheese?
Geoff:  Oh I dunno.
Me:  Well we just bought a block Friday, where did it go.
G:  Oh I may have eaten it.
Me: Eaten it?  In 4 days?
G:  I dunno.
Me:  DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH CHEESE COSTS?  THIS ISN'T YOUR MOMS HOUSE< YOU CANT EAT THROUGH CHEESE LIKE THAT!!!...

and so on... We didn't talk for 2 days... Just kidding(although it could of been possible)

That cheese fight, well, i hold it close to my heart.  We have come along way.  I have another great fight, but that's for another day.(but the wait will be worth it)

I think the hardest job in marriage--and life-- is communication.  Geoff and I are both talkers, but thats not to say we cover what needs to be said.  We can seriously have a 20 min. convo on TV characters(and we quite frequently do)  But to talk about whats really bothering, whats really on your mind, well thats a tough job.  If your anything like me(and lets hope your not) You know there are things to be said, but to get into it feels draining.  So I always think-  I'll bring this up later.  Later turns to never and never turns into "Geoff, wheres the stinkin cheese.."  And this is 6 years of marriage.. haha

But if we all could communicate just a little bit better, we feel ALOT better and maybe we wouldn't hurt alone.. Maybe we could see past the hurt.  To my friends who are hurting- To say things out loud can go along way.  Just make sure your saying them to the right person.  And leave out the cheese.

So this Saturday, Geoff and I are headed for 2 nights away.  Just him and I.  Our first time with out Baby. (Oi).  But I think it will be good, and we are only going to the city.  I'm really looking forward to being just us again.  for a a bit, anyhow.  6 Years is 6 years.  living one day is better than not living a day at all, right?