The year of cheese

If I have learned anything in the last few weeks its this:  Every day you make it in this world, should be celebrated.  You may not have faced any great obstacles, there may of been nothing hurled your way, but you made it in a pretty sick world and you gotta get credit for that.  We have been handed bad news twice in one week,  news that makes you sick to your stomach and heading for the covers.  We are ok, but I got some pretty great friends that cant see past their hurt right now, and that's a pretty awful feeling.  We are almost scared to answer the phone.  Yea, one of those weeks.  But its not me I'm worried about.

So, back to the celebrating, on Saturday, its Geoff and I's 6 year anniversary.  In the Grand scheme of things I'll admit, that not that high of digits.  But, this week, well, its pretty great accomplishment.  Each day you make your marriage work, well, your doing the best work you can do.

If you think back to the first year you were married (and if your not married, you remember this, cuz one day, you'll know)--Hardest year.  I know that there will be some--some-- that will never admit to how hard the change can be.  But, hard doesn't really even touch it.  haha.  If I remember correctly Geoff and I's biggest fight was over cheese.  CHEESE.  I wont drag it out too much (although, if we had it on tape, it would be worth the entertainment) but it went a little like this:

Me:  Geoff wheres all the cheese?
Geoff:  Oh I dunno.
Me:  Well we just bought a block Friday, where did it go.
G:  Oh I may have eaten it.
Me: Eaten it?  In 4 days?
G:  I dunno.
Me:  DO YOU KNOW HOW MUCH CHEESE COSTS?  THIS ISN'T YOUR MOMS HOUSE< YOU CANT EAT THROUGH CHEESE LIKE THAT!!!...

and so on... We didn't talk for 2 days... Just kidding(although it could of been possible)

That cheese fight, well, i hold it close to my heart.  We have come along way.  I have another great fight, but that's for another day.(but the wait will be worth it)

I think the hardest job in marriage--and life-- is communication.  Geoff and I are both talkers, but thats not to say we cover what needs to be said.  We can seriously have a 20 min. convo on TV characters(and we quite frequently do)  But to talk about whats really bothering, whats really on your mind, well thats a tough job.  If your anything like me(and lets hope your not) You know there are things to be said, but to get into it feels draining.  So I always think-  I'll bring this up later.  Later turns to never and never turns into "Geoff, wheres the stinkin cheese.."  And this is 6 years of marriage.. haha

But if we all could communicate just a little bit better, we feel ALOT better and maybe we wouldn't hurt alone.. Maybe we could see past the hurt.  To my friends who are hurting- To say things out loud can go along way.  Just make sure your saying them to the right person.  And leave out the cheese.

So this Saturday, Geoff and I are headed for 2 nights away.  Just him and I.  Our first time with out Baby. (Oi).  But I think it will be good, and we are only going to the city.  I'm really looking forward to being just us again.  for a a bit, anyhow.  6 Years is 6 years.  living one day is better than not living a day at all, right?

When today seems to be too much

Today the dishes in the sink can wait until after my first cup. French vanilla this morning. I need to just sit for a few minutes. Let lesser things wait for now. This past year has been a tough year, no secret there. It seems when all in right for the moment in your life, something else has to be wrong. A good good friend of mine has had a bad few months.. Tragic to say he least. And while I'm not here to give you the grimey details and let's be honest what kind of friend wOuld I be, I can say, she's had the kind of year or even life that you can only read in books. She has worries that keep you up at ight and rob you of the one of the few things you Need to get through a bad moment: sleep.

Doesn't your heart break when you can't fix hurt? We can fill our prayers with thoughts for them, but how do you let them know your here for them when they need it? It seems impossible sometimes doesn't it? I guess you let your prayers do the work. But then shouldn't you act on them too?

I think sometimes when you seem to be living a grueling day to day, you start feeling very worthless. When every breath you take seems like work, you want to stay in bed. You want not to feel anything at all if it can't be releif.

I guess you gotta let your friends- whoever you know is hurting- you love them. And yOu can't just tell them once. Tell them as much as they need it. Pray they get through this day. Pray that the next day will bring them relief. Pray they hold on until the prayers kick in. Pray they can just have one. Decent. Sleep.

Lost shoes

It's been too long... Let me first start by saying this post is from my IPhone so excuse all typo's!

It's busy having a toddler. If you've had one or still raising one, you know exactly how I feel. Even with the best of children, comes hard work. It starts the moment we hear "mama" in the morning until the last cry sometime after 3am sometimes. To complain about it really pointless. I'd choose this life a million times over, I can promise you that.

When you see a well behaved kid there is some one to thank for that. Usually credit goes to mom and dad but admittedly it credit sometimes has to be shared with our loved ones that take the time to help us train these little people. Never be to afraid to help out when you can. If you already do, know that to parents, you cherish those friends the very most. Take time for MY child, and I will never ever forget it.

Recently, when away from my helper(geoff), I was at a party. I barely knew anyone and was over Whelmed but being the only one to look after a just under 2 year old. I stepped outside with her so we both could hear ourselves think and to breath fresh air. And ok ok, so I could let her run free. Good for her better for me. Long story longer, Someone I know only a little and his wife whom I have known and liked for years, immediately came and crouched to grace faces level. Pulled out a ball for her to play with. Friend for life. I could tell, having stared at that beautiful face for hours, that she was smitten. And to get to steal his hat, if only for a few minutes. Done. Straight out love. Did you know that kids can pick out he good people in life? They can and they do.

I'm sure to those 2, they haven't thought Bout what they did once since that night. It's not really in there nature to think too much of themselves, but honestly, to me, it was so kind and gave me a few minutes of break.

And something else I found myself thinking about today was how well my baby girl did at the conve tion this year. We came fully supplied with new toys and new crayons, new books and new treats. We used every thing uP and and very last piece of energy and came away pretty proud of her. When we were asked how well she did, we bragged about how well behaved she was. BUT when people talked about certain talks, admittedily we usually didn't remember hearing it. Why? Because you spend all your time entertaining your baby. Changing them. Feeding them. Finding lost toys. Lost shoes.( yes day one, 10 min at rexall we lost a shoe). Once you get through all that stuff you pick up what you can.

You see.. Behind every well behaved baby.. Is a parent or family member or even friend, that's expending all their energy to MAKE a well behaved baby. Its exhausting. But it has it's rewards. And those, my dEar friends, Are endless.